I WANT A DIVORCE - WHAT DO I DO NOW?
20th October 2020
We are conditioned to think divorce is “bad” or a sign of failure - it is neither It’s common to feel guilty if you are the one starting the divorce or are the one who has formed an attachment with someone else
Divorce isn’t just a legal transaction - it’s a journey, which can at times feel like a roller coaster ride Remember this when you are having doubts - if your marriage is no longer happy or healthy and you have explored all options then divorce is a good thing. A good thing for you, your ex and your children in the long run.
No child wants to live with angry, resentful, withdrawn parents Fear. Fear of the unknown future can keep you prisoner in an unhappy or unhealthy marriage. Facing your fear is an essential part of living your life. Remember how good you felt when you last overcame your fear of something? That sense of achievement that you felt?
If you are feeling exhilarated by the fact you have made a momentous decision, hold on to that feeling. However, the initial buzz of making the decision will fade as you progress through the divorce process. Just keep remembering why you wanted out of your marriage in the first place.
a)Decide what is important to you - particularly the values that are important to you as well as the assets. It requires some thought about the future you want. Think also about the kind of relationship you want with your ex in the future.
b) Get organised. Organised wit your time, energy, paperwork and finances. It is important to prioritise what is required or asked of you in the divorce process as this leads to a quicker and cheaper and less stressful divorce in the long run. Learn to say NO to people to conserve your time and energy. Start gathering your financial information and filing it into some sort of organised system
c) Get legal advice. This will help you plan your divorce avoiding any surprises, avoidable problems and unnecessary delays. It will also help you have discussions about the financial arrangements with your ex as you will know what your rights and responsibilities are.Back Contact Sarah