25th September 2020



Is it just easier to stay married and make the best of a bad situation?

Life is not a dress rehearsal and we only have one life.

We owe it to ourselves to live our lives to the full as best we can and to make the most of our limited time on this planet.


You crave change but the effort needed to bring about that change feels too great and overwhelming

You have nothing else to give…you feel exhausted by 8 pm and simply going through the motions until you can climb into bed

The world feels grey and unappealing to you.

There is little fun or excitement to be had

Extreme tiredness affects us all at some point in our lives.

It is not a sign of failure.

It is OK to be tired. The key is to recognise it and allow yourself to be tired

Being in an unhappy marriage is exhausting. Everyone wants a piece of you and you feel no-one is giving anything back to you in return

Taking too much on and having everyone depend on you is tiring.

Living a life you don’t want and just going through the motions is draining.

Staying in an unhappy marriage is going to make you more tired

When you are tired the key to leaving an unhappy marriage is to take things gently.

Here are my 5 tips to help you gently plan for divorce even if you feel totally exhausted

How to manage Tiredness

1. Lower your expectations of yourself.

Having high standards places an unnecessary burden on you. Look at ways you can reduce your commitments or how you can take short cuts

2. Delegate.

Ask for help around the house.

3. Outsource chores that you find most time and energy sapping

4. Find something new to do that re-energies you. Something you enjoy or used to enjoy before you let tiredness get in the way of it. Try Salsa dancing, going for a walk, watching a football or rugby game, getting a beauty treatment, have a round of golf, go for a drive, go fishing

5. Get good legal support.

You don’t have to go down the route of divorce alone. Having a lawyer that gives you little tasks to do lifts the burden of being overwhelmed as well as getting the job done. It allows you to concentrate on work and spending time with your kids


You need to make space for your divorce so that it is not just another thing on your ever-growing “To-Do-List”. It should be a part of how you are living your life now to get the life you want To make space you need to get organised.

Create a place where you can file papers in an orderly fashion. Invest in some folders, post-it notes, notebooks (paper or digital versions) etc. It also helps if you set aside a particular day and time in the week when you are going to deal with any divorce related issues.

If you need help getting organised and preparing for divorce or you are ready to take the next step and start the process then it is time we had a chat

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