Exploring Your Options

29th October 2018

Some people feel that ending unhealthy marriages is always wrong, but this cannot be so. 

Life is supposed to be as good as we can make it for ourselves and for those around us. We all are given choices, and chances, and we need to make the most of those, not just muddle along grossly unhappy and unfulfilled.

I never tell people what to do. My role is simply to inform people of all their options, including how they may address and repair the difficulties in their marriages.  I believe that we can only make like choices for ourselves because no one else can know or evaluate what we, as emotional individuals, experience. 

I do, however, end up helping a lot of people facing or going through a divorce, 

There are so many reasons not to change. It will be bad for children. I will lose care of the children. It will cost too much. I don’t have a job. I would have to move. I don’t want to share my pension or pay maintenance.

I often point out to clients that for the most part, you don’t know what the outcome of these things will be and that they are possibly sitting in ignorance about what their future choices are. And because they don’t know, they feel afraid. And because they are afraid, they don’t do anything.

So, whether you are determined to stay, or just don’t know what is the right thing to do, you owe it to yourself to fill in these gaping holes of ignorance about your options. How can you truly choose to stay if you don’t know what other choices you have?  

If this article resonates with you and you would like to find out and explore your options then contact me to arrange a chat at Sarah@partingways.co.uk 

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